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How do I show my team I'm willing to listen when the...

📝 KitchenNmbrs · updated 07 Apr 2026

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After fifteen years of restaurant management, I've learned that the most dangerous moment isn't when your numbers look bad—it's when they look perfect but your team is struggling. Your staff sees the daily grind while you see the spreadsheet.

After fifteen years of restaurant management, I've learned that the most dangerous moment isn't when your numbers look bad—it's when they look perfect but your team is struggling. Your staff sees the daily grind while you see the spreadsheet. Building trust means proving you'll adjust your assumptions based on their real-world experience.

Why numbers and reality clash

You've calculated food cost at 28%, but your chef says you're losing money on that dish. Or your spreadsheet shows 200 covers are achievable, but your team's drowning at 150 guests. These disconnects happen because:

  • You calculate with theoretical portion sizes, the team works with practical ones
  • Your spreadsheet doesn't account for peak pressure and stress
  • Cutting waste in practice is different than on paper
  • Your team sees waste that you don't measure

⚠️ Watch out:

If your team stops giving feedback on numbers, you'll only hear your own echo. Then you become blind to what's really happening.

Show you're listening: practical actions

Words are cheap. Your team wants to see that you actually do something with their input. Here's how to prove it:

Get into the kitchen during peak service

Schedule yourself for an evening shift during the busiest service. Not to micromanage, but to understand. Pay attention to:

  • How much time does it really take to prepare a dish?
  • Where are the bottlenecks you didn't anticipate?
  • Which ingredients run out first, even though you thought you had enough?

? Example:

You calculate 180 grams of salmon per portion, but you see your chef cutting 200-220 grams because smaller pieces look pathetic on the plate.

  • Your calculation: €7.20 per portion (180g at €40/kg)
  • Reality: €8.00-8.80 per portion (200-220g)

Difference: €0.80-1.60 per portion extra

Measure together with your team

Don't rely only on your own measurements. Have different team members prepare the same portion and weigh the result. You'll be shocked at the differences.

Ask about hidden costs

Your team sees things you miss. This is one of the most common blind spots in kitchen management—assuming your calculations capture everything. Ask specifically about:

  • Which ingredients go in the trash more often than you think?
  • Where are the biggest time wasters?
  • Which dishes cause the most stress?
  • What takes more time than you estimated?

Adjust your numbers based on input

Most importantly: show that you actually do something with the feedback. If your team says something doesn't add up, investigate it and adjust where necessary.

? Example of adjustment:

Your sous chef says carbonara takes much more time than you thought because the eggs often fail under pressure.

  • Old calculation: 4 minutes prep time
  • New calculation: 6 minutes + 10% failures
  • Impact on labor cost per portion: €1.20 → €1.65

Action: Increase menu price from €16.50 to €17.50

Communicate the change

And here's the crucial part: tell your team what you've changed and why. This shows that you take their input seriously.

Make numbers discussable

Organize short, weekly check-ins of 10-15 minutes where you review the numbers with your team. Not to control, but to understand together what's happening.

Ask the right questions

  • "What did you notice this week regarding portions/timing/waste?"
  • "Which dishes felt heavier than usual?"
  • "Where did we run into problems?"
  • "What can we adjust to make it easier?"

? Example of a productive conversation:

"I see our food cost on the steak has gone up to 35%. What's your experience?"

Chef: "The meat quality has been inconsistent lately. We're throwing more away and cutting larger to make it look good."

Action: Try a different supplier or adjust the price

Use tools that promote transparency

Make sure your team also has access to the numbers. If only you know the costs, they can't engage meaningfully. Use a system where everyone can see what dishes cost and generate.

Tools like KitchenNmbrs allow team members to look up costs themselves and suggest adjustments. This makes it a collaborative process instead of your solo effort.

Acknowledge when you were wrong

If it turns out your team was right and your numbers were off, admit that openly. This increases your credibility and encourages honest feedback in the future.

How do you organize a productive numbers conversation? (step by step)

1

Choose the right moment

Schedule the conversation at a quiet time, not right after a hectic service. Make sure your team has time to think and talk.

2

Start with their observations

Ask what they've noticed before you show your own numbers. Really listen to what they say without immediately defending yourself.

3

Compare numbers with practice

Put your calculations alongside their experiences. Look together for explanations for differences and make agreements about measurements to verify this.

✨ Pro tip

Work a full dinner shift every 3 weeks during your busiest night. Don't manage—just cook, plate, and serve. You'll spot the gaps between your spreadsheet reality and kitchen chaos within 30 minutes.

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Frequently asked questions

What if my team only complains about the numbers?
Ask for concrete examples and specific situations. Often there are valuable insights hidden in complaints. Focus on what you can measure and adjust instead of who's right or wrong.
How do I prevent numbers conversations from turning into arguments?
Make it clear upfront that the goal is to understand together, not to prove anyone wrong. Use concrete examples and measurements instead of opinions. Stay curious, not defensive.
What if my team shows no interest in numbers?
Make it relevant to their daily work. Show them how accurate numbers help them: less stress during service, better planning, more understanding of why certain menu choices are made. Connect the dots between numbers and their experience.
ℹ️ This article was prepared based on official sources and professional expertise. While we strive for current and accurate information, the content may differ from the most recent regulations. Always consult the official authorities for binding standards.

Sources consulted

Food Standards Agency (FSA) https://www.food.gov.uk

The HACCP standards shown in this application are for informational purposes only. KitchenNmbrs does not guarantee that displayed values are current or complete. Always consult the FSA or your local authority for the latest regulations.

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Written by

Jeffrey Smit

Founder & CEO of KitchenNmbrs

Jeffrey Smit built KitchenNmbrs from 8 years of hands-on experience as kitchen manager at 1NUL8 Group in Rotterdam. His mission: give every restaurant owner control over food cost.

8 years kitchen manager at 1NUL8 Group Rotterdam
Expertise: food cost management HACCP kitchen management restaurant operations food safety compliance

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